Life is a skilful play of compromises and acceptance. Philosophical, yet true!! An unknown wise men said
I am writing after a very long time. I can write only when my heart is brimming with emotions; and right now it is.........
A very close friend is going through a very rough phase in life. A phase of
choosing between family and career;
a phase where no one around supports her in
being what she wants to be. Let's call this not so fortunate friend of mine '
Ms. LetGo' here.
I know Ms. LetGo since past eight years. We work together. The daily coffee routine in my offices’ EDR (executive dining room) made us reasonably good friends. Everyone knows Ms. LetGo as straight forward, at times bluntly frank, confident and I take no sh*t kind of a girl. Last year I noticed Ms. LetGo pretty troubled and saw many people giving her a piece of advice on how to get out of this rough phase. There were wise advises on how a wife and a mother should prioritize her family over her desires and how it is advisable to sacrifice and make peace with the situation. I wisely chose to keep mum and did not give any wise suggestion to my already confused friend. Anyways my suggestions would definitely have been very rebellious. I really really believe that one can’t keep others happy if they themselves are not happy. So I concluded that it is better to shut up, mind my own business and let her decide for her own good.
She chose ‘Family’ as obviously any girl in her situation would have. But the point here is what she wanted to choose?? I know what she wanted. She wanted to be a good mother, a good wife, while continue being a working professional and most of all, A HAPPY PERSON. I am glad that Ms. LetGo accepted the pressure with a smile and decided to sit at home as desired by people who means the most in her life. What makes me unhappy or you may say what irritates me the most is the fact that when a girl can think so much about her family, when a career oriented person like Ms. LetGo can sacrifice her career to honour the wishes of her loved one, why can’t some good loved one from the family stand up for her and let her be what she wants to be……. LetGo will be a good mother now, she will be a fantastic wife; but, will she ever be a happy and content person??? I feel so uneasy when I relate myself with such a situation of making earth-shattering choices.
They say ‘There is a woman behind every successful man’. Is it too much to ask for if I say there should be a 'MAN BEHIND EVERY HAPPY WOMAN'???
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